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Helen D. Sikora

Memorial for Helen D. Sikora

Born in Newark, NJ on Jan. 26, 1930
Died on Sep. 4, 2016 and resided in Wantage, NJ.
Service: Thursday, Sep. 8, 2016
1:00 pm
Cemetery: Walpack Cemetery
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Helen D. Sikora, 86, of Sussex, passed away Sunday, September 4, 2016, at Newton Medical Center.

The daughter of the late John and Anna Hodulich, Helen was a lifelong resident of Sussex County.

"Love is a rose, but you better not pick it, it only grows when it's on the vine." –Neil Young
The beauty of a fresh cut rose seems to be highly valued, however "beauty" often involves an interpretation of some entity as being in balance and in harmony, whole.

My mother, as with all of us, was not perfect. She was loving, caring and most notably selfless. Her selflessness was the most beautiful and valuable gift that I could have ever experienced in my life. I watched my mother care for my father as Alzheimer Disease slowly took him away. The last five years of his life were hellacious. No matter how much my father trembled in fear and was no longer himself, Mom was there. She was there to care for him, support him and love him. She never missed a night sitting by his side, holding his hand and graciously reminding him who he was.

My mother had secrets, selfless secrets. She hid from all the fact that the deluge of cancer had arrived and began engulfing all in her. She kept her secret because in her mind the priority was to help her husband survive his own deluge. No matter what magnitude shook her being, her love, commitment and tenacity would not allow her to flinch from her focus on him.

As with all secrets, hers was eventually revealed. Some may judge her actions as irrational, as I did at first. The truth was that at 84 years of age, a being as gracious as she, would not have committed to a marriage of 60 years if she was not whole in spirit and unity. I find this to be amazing. I was witness to two beautiful souls, both on the brink of the end, who at their worst of times could still find the incredible strength, beyond the strength required to run a marathon, just to grasp and hold each other's hand and speak so sweetly in the weakest of voice, "I love you, at least we still have each other." I am blessed to have had such a mother, who taught me a lesson of the meaning of selflessness.

My mother was a rose and more; she was the rose and the rose bush, and most importantly the roots. She was it all.

Helen is survived by her children, Joanne and Jerry Schnebelen and Robert and Charlie Sikora; her grandchildren, Cowan, Jack, Kate, Jesse and Jason; and a wonderful Fairy Godmother, Olia.

A graveside service for Helen will be held at 1 p.m. on Thursday, September 8, 2016 at Walpack Cemetery.

Arrangements are under the direction of Smith-McCracken Funeral Home, 63 High St, Newton.

In lieu of flowers, please hold the hands of your loved ones and squeeze tightly. Online condolences may be made at www.smithmccrackenfuneralhome.com.

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